Posts Tagged LDR

2 days to go!

7 December 2008

I’m just in another world every day this week counting down the time until Alison steps foot off that plane in Norfolk and we begin our new life together. Someone would be very hard pressed to remove the smile from my face tonight. I cant imagine what tomorrow and Tuesday will bring me in the way of excitement. Its beyond anything I have known before. Just amazing.

i should be up and doing a lot of things around the house to get things ready, but I really can;t focus or concentrate on anything else for sitting here dreaming of our day coming up, our life coming up.  We were talking yesterday of how we have spent so many days and nights carrying such an ache and yearning to just have the other touchable. It has been so very hard being apart. But never during any part of this separation has our devotion and determination faltered in the least little bit, just the opposite in fact, whenever there are those times we got down or sad at the distance between us it wasn’t long before it was turned around by realising that the love we have endures anything and its because our love is so strong and sure that that is the reason for the pain, a longing and yearning deep within to make our dreams come true,  We used to say to each other that when the time did come all this pain would vanish and the memories with it, You know its true.. here we are now jsut hours from being together and all those aches and pains and sadness have just gone right out the window and its like it was a blur as it all has been replaces with an excitement and knowing now we are nearly there. only happiness is left :)  Oh don’t get me wrong, I know not everything surrounding our life will be honky dory as alison calls it, but beyond any doeubt our love alwasy will endure and togetehr we will get through anything. I guess we have an advantage over a lot of couples as we both truly know the value of a loyal and devoted marriage, open and honest about everything. We have had that from the start, we always will because we have both seen some dark days in our lives and we know beyond doubt that Love truly is the greatest gift in the world and we were given that gift, to honor and cherish it as we do each other. I consider myself the richest man in the world being loved by One such as her.  I love you Alison mou.

Ok off to go do something constructive, times ticking! ;)

4 days to go

5 December 2008

Way beyond words tonight what it feels like to have our dream so near to coming true! :-) this truly was a match made in heaven. Off to sleep then, another day passed. 3 to go when I wake.

9 days to go

30 November 2008
my lady in red

my lady in red

9 days to go and I just can’t wait! :) my heart hasn’t stopped racing since the day she booked the flight! Well truthfully it hasn’t stopped racing since that morning i woke and read that message from her on Mingle! And each day now brings us nearer to our special day and the excitement just builds more and more. Once again today we had a chance for a quick skype and I got to see my baby once again :) Shes just back in from another outing, this time to WalMart! yes they have one there too, operating as an ASDA – WalMart Supercentre!

(From Wikipedia, Asda is a United Kingdom supermarket chain which retails food, clothing, toys and general merchandise. It became a subsidiary of the American retail giant Wal-Mart, the world’s largest retailer,[1] in 1999,[2] and is the second largest chain in the UK after Tesco,[3] having overtaken Sainsbury’s in 2003. Asda is Wal-Mart’s largest non-U.S. subsidiary, accounting for almost half of the company’s international sales.)

Asda WalMart Supercentre

So here’s my super shopping Brit standing outside the afore mentioned WalMart. Quite a different look than hte super centers here, but none the less theres the familiar WalMart logo. my guess is pretty soon that star in the middle will be replaced with a world globe ;) Well all of this is just another example of how all this technology helps to keep us close by sharing the days events with each other.

Well i havent had so much to send her these last few days though, trying to get over a bad cold or maybe the flu and I’ve kept inside mostly. I did send her a pic of me after getting rid of some of my grey hair this morning! shhhh! LOL well I dont think I’m so vain really but I do hate having a head full of grey hair and looking so old. I’m not about to give in to it yet, but when the time comes i will go gracefully but until I can afford that “Just for Men” I will keep using it! ;) I dont have a before and after pic so i will just post the after one…

Magically the grey is gone

Magically the grey is gone

Now just to get the beard to match! lol well thats another day. Have to do these things gradually or i will look in the mirror and not recognize myself! Well anyway this is image Alison sees from my webcam during our video chats. I still think i have the better view of seeing her ;) Its wonderful these video calls, only it just makes me want to stop and look at her than to speak! As much as i love this I cant wait to give it all up and have her face to face though. Its been a long three years almost and if you think about it it has hardly been a months time we have actually been together in the same place! ?But we still have managed so very to stay close and connected several times a day without fail. Maybe the very rare occassion one of us was too ill or unable to use a pc or cell, but even those days we at least managed once to speak somehow if it wasnt more than a text.

I guess this post is more a ramble than anything else, just trying to pass the time until these days are passed anf we are where we were destined to be, at each others side :) love you baby xxxx

Fiancée visa Approved!

17 October 2008

October 17, 2008, its finally official; Alison had her interview today at the American Embassy in Nicosia and all our hard work and long waiting has now paid off! Just under 5 months from submitting the petition to having this part of our dream come true! She will have to go back next week to pick it up, but she is now fully approved and she is free to come to the US! legally! lol Well come to stay legally I mean! ;) She still has some business to take care of, renting her house out for one and finding a good home for Mr. Magnificient for another! But all this waiting and worrying now about getting all these forms and certficates and evidence is now all done, well still there is her interview at customs and immigration when she enters the US, but having the visa approved was the huge step to our permananet reunion. This was such an exciting moment for us, well from getting the interview date at the embassy last week its been building until last night I was feeling just like I did the times she was leaving to come here on holiday and the day I left to go there. I could hardly sleep last night waking several times and then texting her a couple of times until whe was nearly to the interview.   From the last text I was wide awake for what seemed to be the longest time, just anticipating our future together and knowing these long aching days of being separated are soon to be a distant memory, well one that wont be forgotten either and we will make sure we make the most of every minute together, we have a LOT of catching up to do! :-)

will add some more later to this post, its early morning and I just got the call from her getting out of the interview. i really knew it would be approved, but until you hear it officially its just not the same. Well I am off to having some coffee to wake me up a bit (like I need the extra caffeine to get my heart racing faster!) and shes having lunch with her good friend Agneta now in Nicosia. It was ever so kind and thoughtful of her to take Alison today, shes been a good friend for so many years to her and I am so thankful she has such good friends around her too. And it is always thanks to God and our angels for making our dreams come true, heaven sent this love has always been, will always be. I’ll speak more later! Whooooo hooo! lol


1 September 2008

It’s Official! Our petition for the fiancée visa was approved today!!!! YEA!!!!!! You cant imagine two more ecited or happier people than the two of us when we got the news :) Our lives are all filled with highs and lows and we mark our journey through life by them. I can in all honesty say I have never been overcome by such joyful emotion as I was when I first got the news. And the timing really was coming at a point that some good news was needed. We both have struggeled trying to keep from getting down about it taking so long and so many hoops to jump through to just simply be together and share a love sent from heaven, as well as the worry with my mom being in the hospital ICU in serious but stable condition. 

Well I should start with getting the news. Both of us had signed up at the USCIS website to receive email updates about our case when any action was taken. Well there are only two instances of action in this particular petion, one is the receipt of it and the case pending, and the last one is the approval notice, we get NOTHING in between which only served to make us that more anxious waiting for word. Yesterday (I’m editing this a day after I made the post) was a busy day for both of us, with me working and then planning to go to the hospital after, and Alison at the time entertaining a friend for dinner at her house. With all the things going on with mom I have been keeping up with the family and friends by email a lot and have been in a habit of checking it on my phone a lot here lately. Well something told me to check it yesterday, one of those feeligs we get, and to be truthful I just thought it was someone wanting to know about mom or something like that. Well I knew alison was busy , but she still sends some kisses right often too :)

Anyway being in the state I was I was sort of in one of those worried states and when i saw the name “CRIS” whch i recognized from signing up at the USCIS site, my heart just seemed to stop and turn 

iPhone inbox

iPhone inbox

180 degrees around! I never have felt so much jubilation as when I saw that notice! I stopped right then and sent Alison a text (I started to cal her but her cell has been going south for a while now and the battery goes very fast on voice calls unless she is plugged into the charger. Here’s the text I did send, excuse the French ;)Text i sent to sent to Alison to tell her the news

 Those few minutes of texting and then her trying to call and speak were like something I hvae never experienced before, both of us jumping up and down likely and telling everyyone who would listen! well everyone knows how badly we wanted this day to come,andnow its here and soon when she is called to go to the embassy there, she will have her visa to come! :) We will have our Christmas together this year! :-) 

You know its seemed like an eternity waiting for this thing to be approved, and looking back now its was just 3 months, well i say just… to us it seeemd so much longer. From what i have seen though the average waitign time now is close to 10 to 13 months and I was so down we wpuld end up seeing another year go by, but somehow God and our angels pulled off another one and made us even happier than we have been :)  But its nothing will compare to that day she gets off the plane here and I hold her in my arms and knowing its for good! Love you baby! XXX

Still waiting on the USCIS

7 August 2008

I used to think patience was one of my virtues and that anything good was worth waiting for, I still do believe that. but I have to confess my patience is being stretched with waiting for our I-129F (K1 visa) petition to be approved. Yes I know there’s a huge backlog and we have to wait our turn, but it just puzzles me sometimes how the government can be so quick to want and demand things on a certain time from its citizens or else face the wrath of fines or threats of punishments for failing to comply and yet at the same time can bide its time in providing the the services that those same citizens view as equally important issues to them.  For example, let your tax payment be posted one day late and see what happens! Or fforget to check the little box on your tax return stating you are filing jointly with your spouse, even though you have the spouses name and social security # and W2 listed on the return, and the govt will recalculate the return as yours alone and send you a quite official sounding mail stating you have 30 days from the notice to pay the reconfigured tax amount or face penalties up to x amount of dollars, possible jail time, and confiscation of property among other things. (yes this happened to me and I of course sent them a reply straight away begging their almighty forgiveness for not checking that freaking box and for assuming they had the common sense to realise it was a joint return when both of our names were on it and both signed the damn thing. Sheesh… ) sorry its still a sore spot with me almost 15 years later…

Well is it too much to ask for at least the same consideration when we as tax paying citizens want at least an approximate date to get an answer to our petition, or at least to get some other response than “the case is ‘pending’ ” ? Now honestly I realise there is a backlog and insufficient staff on hand to handle the amount of visa requests that have been submitted in record numbers this past year. On the other hand if i owe them back taxes(which I don’t by the way) do they give a shit if i have the money or not.. NO! … sorry again, just venting… and be prepared, it likely wont be the last vent either in this post ;)

Anyway I just think we are entitled to some semblance of human compassion if they realise that for two people who are truly in love to be separated any longer than we have to be is just morally wrong, plain and simple. Its not like we can afford to fly back and forth for visits every so often, and even if we could its not what either of us want. Do any of these people have the slightest clue what its like to say goodbye to te love of your life at the airport, not knowing when the next kiss will be, or the next time you can wrpa your arms around your other half? they are clueless in that area, or uncaring. maybe you think I’m being harsh as I do realise there are plenty of fraudulent applications made and for probably nefarious reasons too, but there still ought to be some kind of method to take the obviously genuine cases and take the as priorities. No I don’t profess to say how that would be ascertained, but I’m sure with enough thought about it something could be worked up. After all the US govt already has more information on me than I probably know myself! it started accumulating the day I was born didn’t it, with the birth certificate~ then when I was old enough to work, a social security number.. they know where I live, what car I drive, my email address, any criminal record or lack there of, you name it they know it, whether they say they do or not. Oh I’m just frustrated and venting tonight, missing Alison and wanting our days together to start now. Just hate this waiting or wasting one more day apart, even though we are always in touch one way or another, its not the same is it. All i would really like to know is about when we can expect a decision so that we can make some sort of preparations and get things moving. she has her house there to rent, her job to consider, her children and family, and then the actual move. And if we had some idea of a general date it would be of some help as we could at least maybe manage another holiday together if its going to be more than a few months, Yes she could come here on a travel visa for 6 months, but still when the petition is approved she has to be in Cyprus to get the visa! And its not like she could fly back and pick it up, she has to go for interviews and medical checkups etc, so that’s a few more weeks i imagine. Just doesn’t seem right to me to make us go through all this, and they say this is the easiest way to get your foreign fiancee here to the US legally so you can get married. for what its worth to them i am married to her already, in my heart and before God. Bureaucracy … baaaaa

Like I said just venting tonight out of frustration of not having my angel in my arms yet again one more night. it does make it easy to see why there are so many illegals here in this country though, a whole lot easier to do it that way it appears than the route we took :(

so just in the event anyone from immigration should ever read this , I really don’t fault the govt (too much) , I just want my wife by my side, I miss her. please help us and HURRY!

Well i try to keep positive and keep patient , we both do. Sometimes it gets us down a bit, but never enough that we aren’t still amazed and loving each other more with what we have. We try to keep humour in our relationship too, its a large part of it. we always still find things to laugh at and lift each other up. So in that vein I thought I would post this email I got from somewhere, not sure now where it came from or who sent it, but it made me laugh and although its written from a British perspective I think you could change the particulars in it and it would sound just like it was written here in the States..

Dear Minister,
I’m in the process of renewing my passport but I am a total loss to understand or believe the hoops I am being asked to jump through.

How is it that Bert Smith of T.V. Rentals Basingstoke has my address and telephone number and knows that I bought a satellite dish from them back in 1994, and yet, the Government is still asking me where I was born and on what date?

How come that nice West African immigrant chappy who comes round every Thursday night with his DVD rentals van can tell me every film or video I have had out since he started his business up eleven years ago, yet you still want me to remind you of my last three jobs, two of which were with contractors working for the government?

How come the T.V. detector van can tell if my T.V. is on, what channel I am watching and whether I have paid my licence or not, and yet if I win the government run lottery they have no idea I have won or where I am and will keep the bloody money to themselves if I fail to claim in good time.
Do you people do this by hand?

You have my birth date on numerous files you hold on me, including the one with all the income tax forms I’ve filed for the past 30-odd years. It’s on my health insurance card, my driver’s licence, on the last four passports I’ve had, on all those stupid customs declaration forms I’ve had to fill out before being allowed off the planes and boats over the last 30 years, and all those insufferable census forms that are done every ten years and the electoral registration forms I have to complete, by law, every time our lords and masters are up for re-election.

Would somebody please take note, once and for all, I was born in Maidenhead on the 4th of March 1957, my mother’s name is Mary, her maiden name was Reynolds, my father’s name is Robert, and I’d be absolutely astounded if that ever changed between now and the day I die!

I apologise Minister. I’m obviously not myself this morning. But between you and me, I have simply had enough! You mail the application to my house, then you ask me for my address. What is going on? Do you have a gang of Neanderthals working there? Look at my damn picture. Do I look like Bin Laden? I don’t want to activate the Fifth Reich for God’s sake! I just want to go and park my weary backside on a sunny, sandy beach for a couple of week’s well-earned rest away from all this crap.

Well, I have to go now, because I have to go to back to Salisbury and get another copy of my birth certificate because you lost the last one. AND to the tune of 60 quid! What a racket THAT is!! Would it be so complicated to have all the services in the same spot to assist in the issuance of a new passport the same day? But nooooo, that’d be too damn easy and maybe make sense. You’d rather have us running all over the place like chickens with our heads cut off, then find some tosser to confirm that it’s really me on the goddamn picture – you know… the one where we’re not allowed to smile in in case we look as if we are enjoying the process!
Hey, you know why we can’t smile? ‘Cause we’re totally jacked off!

I served in the armed forces for more than 25 years including over ten years at the Ministry of Defence in London. I have had security clearances which allowed me to sit in the Cabinet Office, five seats away from the Prime Minister while he was being briefed on the first Gulf War and I have been doing volunteer work for the British Red Cross ever since I left the Services. However, I have to get someone ‘important’ to verify who I am — you know, someone like my doctor…
who, before he got his medical degree 6 months ago WAS LIVING IN PAKISTAN…

Yours sincerely,
An Irate British Citizen.

Chester’s First Poem

21 May 2006

What a Marvelous, Magical way,
To begin this brand new day;
Just weeks ago it seems,
Hopes for joy were dreams!

But now, with very great delight,
The darkness has been filled with Light!
By His Grace an Angel has arrived,
My Torn Heart now so Revived!

Wonders and dreams now I can see,
Smiles and happiness now follow me,
A new happiness in my life begun,
By the beautiful lady named Alison!!

Alison’s First Poem

20 May 2006

Fantastic, Magical, Wonderful gift,
An Awesome , Tremendous, Welcome lift,
My sadness gone right out that door,
Entering happiness just more and more !

My heart is absolutely full of glee
A special someone sent to me,
He could only be Heaven sent…
this perfect, loving, handsome gent !

To my Lord I often pray,
that he wasn’t so faaaaaaaaaar away !
But every night I go to sleep,
In my heart his words I’ll keep,
And in my dreams I’l see his face,
and give him one quite HUGE embrace !.

Now its the end of this little rhyme,
But I hope Gods will is right on time
As I think my feelings will never fade,
For this great guy called Chester Wade !

From Ocean to Ocean

20 April 2006

by Marguerite Schrader

They are two people drawn together by an unseen power. A bond from a distance, only they know the reason.
Love has an intensity as still as a calm night or as savage as a raging storm.
That is the need.
Together they are one, alone no more.
A light comes into their hearts to make them alive.
Aware of life and living again in a complacent world. Strangers for a time, until their souls reach out and touch one another.
The knowledge of a lifetime is passed between them.
Sharing the joys, the tribulations, the expectations is a new experience.
Strangers no more, caring begins.
With familiarity comes laughter to brighten the spirit and lighten the heart.
An understanding, that words cannot express, spreads across the miles and friendship commences.
They wonder at this new found level of love.
They revel at the very thought of hands caressing and lips touching from ocean to ocean.
The beauty of love is seen as an oasis in the desert of loneliness.
They know where to look and what to say.
They understand the workings of the mind to protect from pain.
It is all so new and yet so easy.
Heaven on earth can be love.
It can be friendship.
It can be understanding and compassion.
Most of all it is giving.
They gave of each other for each other’s happiness.
And together they found everything.